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The Top 10 Ways to Reduce Violence
I happen to live near the one of the tragic "school shootings" of
the recent past, and I've seen how the grief, anger, heartache and turmoil have impacted
our community. It has brought home that a general abhorrence of violence is not
enough. While I'm sure others will have different, and perhaps wiser, suggestions
about how to reduce violence, here are my Top 10 Ways to Reduce Violence. If you
can improve them, I welcome your feedback, but I suspect it may be more important and more
useful if you write a letter to your local newspaper or school board. Together, we
can reduce and perhaps eliminate violence.
- Disconnect anger from violence. I am convinced that human beings get angry, and
that anger at injustice is often justified. There is healthy anger that insists,
"There has to be a better way!" I shutter when I hear parents tell children,
"You shouldn't be angry." Tell them instead, "You're feelings are
OK, you can be angry, but you may not hit or hurt others."
- See the connection between the love of violence and violence itself. Fascination
with brutality, guns and bombs, war and evil must increase the chances for violent
behavior. I can't prove that, it just seems likely to me.
- See the connection between all levels of violence. Insults and taunting,
humiliation and shaming are forms of violence. When we treat people badly, it
should not surprise us when they seek a way to "get even."
- Take all violence seriously. Playground bullies and sibling rivalries do not have
to be accepted as part of life, at least not when children are getting hurt. Kids
squabbling over "my toy" is one thing; hitting or pulling hair or knocking each
other down is something else. We do not have to accept it as normal behavior.
- Take troubled, angry people seriously. We talk about needing more early
intervention with troubled kids, and I agree. But people of all ages get trapped in
situations they can't handle, with emotions they don't know how to express.
Domestic violence, violence among co-workers and among children should always be treated
as a serious matter. Hitting and hurting, and threatening to hurt, are not OK.
- Deal with the availability of guns. Knives, cars, and a thousand other things
also kill people, but guns have a unique place in the American imagination. Of
course, they also have a place in the rich tradition of hunting and target shooting.
I don't have all the answers, but hunting seems different than having
military-style weapons available in millions of homes across the country. There
must be a better system.
- Acknowledge the connection between violent images and violent behavior. I abhor
censorship, so this is a tough one. But if 30-second images can sell us lipstick
and Buicks, and change the way we vote, it seems likely that hours and hours of
explosions, shootings, fights and mayhem may also influence behavior. To be blunt,
I am particularly troubled by the violence in video games and the number of violent
"action adventure" movies we support as a culture. Something strange is
- Acknowledge the connection between sports and violent behavior. Again, sports is
a sacred icon in American culture, but it seems that sports have been separated from
athletics. Instead of every child participating in gym class and competing in
intramural sports, we have a culture of super-hero super-stars who are virtually above the
law. Hockey, basketball, football and other sports all tolerate behavior that would
result in arrest for assault outside the sports arena. Competition and fitness are
valuable; organized violence is not acceptable!
- Acknowledge the connection between language and violence. Business uses the
language of the battlefield, and sports is full of encouragement to "get out there
and kill", "massacre them", and "beat their brains out".
Our legal system is based on the idea of lawyer's doing battle. While hiring a
representative to fight with words instead of clubs was a huge step forward in the middle
ages, perhaps our society is ready for an even higher level of conflict resolution.
- See the violence in ourselves. Sometimes I find myself so angry I
"daydream" about violence, or "really showing them". I hear
jokes that use the phrase, "Just shoot the bastards!" I know if
"looks could kill" or if cutting statements actually drew blood, I'd be in deep
trouble. Violence is not just someone else's problem. I must work for peace,
love and improved conflict resolution in my own life. How about you?
Phil, Mary, and the Staff at
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