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This is the second of 10 articles reviewing the "Secrets of Success". Last week we began with Integrity, the first essential for achieving total success.
Successful people create lives that "flow" with seamless consistency. They move from work, to home and beyond without missing a beat. Their investments, their reading, their conversation and their relationships reflect who they are, what they believe and what they value in life. With truly successful people, "What you see, is what you get."
Several of you sent positive, thoughtful responses, and I appreciate your insights and suggestions. From your replies, a valuable addition struck me: Truly successful people maintain both a single focus and a broad balance in their lives. There is a seamless devotion to achieving their most important goals, but it's done with grace, caring, and a vital interest in all that life has to offer. They enjoy life and they are open to variety, new ideas, and new possibilities. Thanks to each of you emphasized the importance of a balanced life built around a unifying theme!
The second key to success is knowing what you want, and where you're going in life. In traditional terms, it comes down to: GOALS!
For me, however, goals are too limiting. Too often, goals "push" us. Goals suggest that the present is not good enough, that we need to work, struggle or "try" to change our situation and make it "better". Pursuing goals can be a recipe for dissatisfaction, unhappiness and hard work, because the present can never be good enough!
Successful people don't use goals that way. Instead, they have an image, a value, or a destination that is much larger than a "performance goal", and they live to make it a reality. They understand that the only moment of life that counts is NOW, and they enjoy every moment of every day, knowing that life is perfect and wonderful! And yet, simultaneously, they feel drawn forward by the pull of their magnificent obsession.
Successful people appear to work very hard. They are at the office for long hours, they "eat, sleep and drink" their passion - but they often feel as if they don't work at all! For them, the vision, the future they have imagined for themselves, is so real, so exciting and so rewarding that spending their time and energy pursuing it is truly "play"!
If the first secret of success is Integrity, the second is having a clear vision of life as it "could be". "They have seen the promised land!" They know where they are going in life.
With George Bernard Shaw, they say, "Others see things as they are, and ask, 'Why?' I dream of things that have never been, and ask, 'Why not?'"
Highly successful people are, in a sense, split personalities. They live in what the rest of us call "reality". They are effective, dynamic and practical in the tasks of every day living. But, they also see another world in their imaginations, and their passion, their joy and their obligation is to move toward that vision. It doesn't matter that they may not live long enough to see it completed. Their success is to live well in the present, and to invest their time, talents, and passion to create a better tomorrow.
Success is not about reaching some goal or achieving an objective, but about living life so we can say, "I did my part, I gave it all I had. I have no regrets!"
Quotes of the Week
"In this world it is not what we take up, but what we
give up, that makes us rich."
"Don't be afraid of the space between your dreams and
reality. If you can dream it, you can make it so."
"Dying seems less sad than having lived too
"One is happy as a result of one's own efforts, once
one knows the necessary ingredients of happiness - simple tastes, a certain degree of
courage, self-denial to a point, love of work, and above all, a clear conscience.
Happiness is no vague dream, of that I now feel certain."
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