Sunday, May 4, 2008
Written & Published by Philip E. Humbert, PhD
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Table of Contents:
1. The One-Minute TIP
2. Welcome Notes
3. Life, Liberty & the Pursuit of Happiness
4. Quotes of the Week
5. Strictly Business: Your Impersonal Dream
6. Resources and Tools for YOUR Success!
7. Humor: For Those Born Before 1979
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1. The One-Minute TIP
We each find happiness in our own ways. For some, it’s the excitement of
discovery. Others are happiest climbing mountains. Franklin Roosevelt
enjoyed his stamp collection. Whatever makes you happy, do more of it.
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2. Welcome Notes
The most important thing this week is to say a huge THANK YOU!
Last Sunday, a friend sent an email about Cody’s death and she predicted
I’d get more response to that TIPS than ever before, and she was right!
We got about 400 emails, several cards, a handful of phone calls and
even some nice gifts! It is wonderful to be part of such a gracious
community! Thank you to everyone who reached out. That meant (and means)
a lot! I tried to respond to each of those emails, but if yours got
missed, know that it was read and deeply appreciated. Thank you!
I laughed when a friend predicted we’d even get offers of adoptable
puppies, and (fortunately) that did not happen! I prefer to believe that
TIPS subscribers love their dogs and would never give them away, and in
any case, it’s too soon for us. We’ll adopt another canine companion
eventually, but it will take a while. I assume when we’re ready, the
perfect teacher will arrive.
We leave for Wisconsin in several days, and I can hardly wait! The
timing is perfect—the Conference Center is a special, healing place for
me, and of course, I love the energy of the WCL Conference! We always
have a perfect mix of participants who support each other, and even the
weather—rain or sun, warm or cold—always seems “just right.” It’ll be
good to be there.
Finally, with travel and the WCL, the timing might be a little awkward
but I have two openings for new individual or small business clients. If
the time is right and you’d like coaching to move quickly and
dramatically forward, contact me. Send an email to
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3: Life, Liberty & the Pursuit of Happiness
This week I read about a huge survey (over 100,000 participants) that
said only 47% of Americans describe themselves as truly “happy.” This is
the biggest survey ever on the topic, and it amazes me that more than
half of us (think of that!) are not fulfilled, satisfied or “happy” with
our lives. How can that be?
In the past couple of centuries, we’ve done well on two of the three
freedoms proclaimed in our Declaration of Independence. We’ve more than
doubled life expectancy. Progress in medicine, sanitation, and safety
give us more years than ever before. And we certainly have more liberty!
We can say, think, travel, learn, buy, do or experience more variety
than ever before. Even our parents never dreamed of the freedoms we take
for granted every day.
And yet when asked closely about our lives, we are no happier (and
perhaps not as happy) as past generations. Headlines proclaim that we
are anxious, stressed, cranky or depressed. We take more pills than any
people in history. We worry. We feel less safe than our ancestors who
faced famine, war and pestilence. What’s going on? How can this be and
what can we do about it?
Partly, I don’t think we actively seek “happiness” as much as we might.
We are so busy pursuing things and taking care of business that we
forget to enjoy our lives. Sometimes I’m not sure we even expect
to be happy! In part, I blame our work ethic for this. We are so focused
on a better tomorrow that we forget the wonders of today.
I’d like to propose that happiness be considered a kind of skill. There
are keys or steps to increasing happiness, and they can be learned. Here
are five suggestions:
1. Happiness Requires Safety. When Abraham Maslow introduced his
“Hierarchy” in 1947 he began with security. I suspect happiness begins
with locking the doors at night, with some money in the bank, with a
belief that we and our loved ones are safe. Yes, we could be hit by a
bus and we lost Cody suddenly last week, but to increase your level of
happiness, take security seriously. Take care of your environment.
Nurture a sense of personal control. Save money and invest wisely. For
most of us, basic safety is attainable. Take care of yourself and your
loved ones.
2. Happiness Requires Community. People are happier when they
have caring, loving relationships. Spend time with family and friends.
Invest in your neighbors and co-workers. Remember that we are “tribal”
creatures and we need our friends. Whether it’s an extended family, your
golfing buddies or girlfriends, nurture your community. As I wrote last
week, I love the Beatles’ observation that we “get by with a little help
from our friends.” Happiness is found in community.
3. Happiness Requires Contribution. This means doing work that
gives you fulfillment and satisfaction. Happy people make a difference!
Most of us do our work through our jobs, but it can also come from
volunteering or in some other way. You have talent and ability! Share
it. Make a positive impact in your world. Contribute. It will make you
happy.
4. Happiness Requires Fun. Happy people have fun! Whether it’s
playing catch, making love, watching a movie or flying a kite, we don’t
laugh as much as we could. We take our fun too seriously. Too often, we
define “fun” as flying to Vegas or hosting an elaborate party. Why not
grill hot-dogs and be done with it? Pillow fights are fun. Watching a
sunset or washing the dog can be fun. I like Jimmy Buffet’s observation
that “having fun is about as good a hobby as there is.”
5. Happiness Requires the X-Factor. We each find happiness in our
own ways. For some, it’s the excitement of discovery. Others are
happiest climbing mountains. Franklin Roosevelt enjoyed his stamp
collection. Whatever makes you happy, do more of it.
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4. Quotes of the Week
"Happiness is that state of consciousness which proceeds from the
achievement of one's values."
-- Ayn Rand
"How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment to improve
the world."
-- Anne Frank
"Today I have grown taller from walking with the trees."
-- Karle Wilson
"Somewhere along the line of development we discover what we really are,
and then make our real decisions for which we are responsible. Make that
decision primarily for yourself because you can never really live anyone
else's life.”
-- Eleanor Roosevelt
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5. Strictly Business: Your Impersonal Dream
I recently read Michael Gerber’s new book, Awakening the Entrepreneur
Within, and it touched me. He makes a vital distinction between our
personal dreams for success, wealth, fame or whatever, and the
“impersonal dream” that lies behind every great business.
An impersonal dream is our belief that what we do will make an essential
difference to the whole world. When he launched Microsoft, I’m sure Bill
Gates had a personal dream that included things like money, influence, a
nice house, a new car and so forth. He certainly didn’t launch Microsoft
with a dream of failing!
But he also had an impersonal dream that made all the difference.
He wanted “a computer on every desktop.” He dreamed of a world where
ordinary people could harness the power of computers to communicate and
produce. He had an impersonal dream that his little operating system
could open doors he knew nothing about on every desktop and in every
office around the world. Now that’s a dream!
Your business needs such a dream. Gerber argues that starting a business
to make money or to employ people is nice, but it’s not enough. To keep
going when things are tough requires a sense of mission, an impersonal
dream that your shop, your book or factory or restaurant will ultimately
touch thousands of people in a vital way.
What’s your “big idea?” If a million people copied your idea or bought
your products or used your service, how would that change the world?
When managers and owners, entrepreneurs and inventors have huge
“impersonal” dreams their businesses flourish because their sense of
mission makes everything better.
What’s your impersonal dream to make this small planet just a little bit
better? Find it and your business will taken on new meaning, and
perhaps, new profits.
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7. Humor: For Those Born Before 1979
Paul Vogt recently sent me this and I thought it was particularly
appropriate this week. In terms of being happy, I think we worry too
much. I love Bobby McFarran’s advice, “Don’t worry, be happy!” If you
were born more than thirty years ago, I think you’ll recognize some of
these. Enjoy!
TO ALL THE KIDS WHO SURVIVED the 1930's, 40's, 50's, 60's and 70's!!
First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while
they were pregnant.
They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn't
get tested for diabetes.
Then after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby
cribs covered with bright colored lead-based paints.
We had no childproof lids on bottles, doors or cabinets were not
childproof, and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets!.
As children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, no booster seats,
no seat belts, not even air bags!
Riding in the back of a pick up on a warm day was considered a special
treat.
We drank water from the garden hose, not from a fancy plastic bottle.
We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and no one
actually died from this.
We ate cupcakes, white bread and real butter and drank Kool-aid made
with sugar, but we weren't overweight because WE WERE ALWAYS OUTSIDE
PLAYING!
We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were
back when the streetlights came on.
With no cell phones, no one could to reach or monitor us all day and we
survived and thrived!
We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride
down the hill, only to find we forgot the brakes. After running into the
bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem.
We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's, X-boxes, no video games at
all, no cable TV, no video movies or DVD's, no surround-sound or CD's,
no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet or chat rooms........
We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no
lawsuits from these accidents.
We ate worms and mud pies, and the worms did not live in us forever.
We rode bikes to a friend's house and knocked on the door or just walked
in and talked to them without adult supervision or scheduled play-dates!
Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who
didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!!
The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of.
They actually sided with the law!
These generations have produced some of the best risk-takers, problem
solvers and inventors ever!
The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.
We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned HOW
TO DEAL WITH IT ALL!
If YOU are one of them CONGRATULATIONS!
You might want to share this with others who had the luck to grow up
before the lawyers and the government regulated so much of our lives
"for our own good."
While you are at it, forward it to your kids so they will know how brave
(and lucky) their parents were.
Kind of makes you want to run through the house with scissors,
doesn't it?
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Be kind to yourself and to someone else, and
have a
wonder-FULL week!
Philip E. Humbert, PhD,
President, The Philip E. Humbert Group, Inc.
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